Single Desi or Married & Fancy-Free?

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Old life, New You - photo by Marilena Benini

Old life, New You – photo by Marilena Benini


Single/free or Married & looking for the next opportunity to cheat?

So today on this beautiful summer day, I decided to watch The View.  Today the ladies of The View played a game called Family Matters and the question was “What percentage of wives in America would cheat on their husbands if they weren’t going to get caught?”

The answers were as follows.  Sherry Shepherd said, 95%-if women knew they weren’t going to get caught, then they would go for it.  Whoopi Goldberg said, 100%, everyone would cheat if they knew they weren’t getting caught.  Jenny McCarthy stated that she had no idea how she became the conservative of the group, but she has been monogamous in every relationship despite plenty of opportunities to cheat and she gave an answer of 75%.

The correct answer according to Frank Luntz – the host of the Family Matters show –  was an astounding 74%.

My question to you is really??? That many people polled would admit to cheating on their husbands if they knew they weren’t going to get caught?  I naturally thought of the Single Desi and the desire to connect beyond the cultural parties and Bollywood movies.

Is it better to be single and free or married and looking for the next opportunity to cheat? What do you think?

Well, I decided to write Single Desi versus Married Desi and list the pros and cons of each status:


The Single Desi is a blog about desi relationships on 'Lassi with Lavina'

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Single Desi


-Used to your own space.

-Keep up with your own interests

-Home to yourself.

-No compromise.

-Make your own decisions.

-Easier, the older you get.

-Watch your own choice shows and listen to your own preferred  music.

-Your own companion.

-Get to know yourself.


-Into self discovery and world exploration.

-Trips to India become less frequent as time goes on.



Why are young desi singles rushing into marriage asks Monica Marwah in her column The Single Desi on the blog Lassi with Lavina

Hennaed hands, ready for a big wedding Photo:NYHenna


Married Desi:


-Travel partner when you both have time off.  Need to iron out time off and differences when you are together.

-Time out to settle differences.

-Share decision making  in your household.

-Date night.

-Compromise on vacation destinations.

-Can’t watch your shows and listen to your music all the time, have to compromise and accept another person’s interests.

-Family life as time goes on.

-Raising children.


-Family roles for children.

-Settled in the suburbs.

-Watch your children grow.


-Continuation of lineage.

-Pass on cultural heritage.

-Consistently take children to India to get to know their heritage and family members.

So there you have it.  Both are options for your life.  However, you must be in the right mindset to settle yourself and raise a family.  I hope each and every one of you gets the life that you want or the life better suited for your personality.



Monica Marwah writes about single desi relationships in 'Sex and the Single Desi' on Lassi with Lavina

Monica Marwah

Monica Marwah

Monica Marwah is a 30-something single school psychologist who enjoys living life to the fullest.  She is taking her experience and showing others how to believe in themselves and love themselves completely.  After years of dating and meeting people, she has come into her own.  Spirituality has been a foundation for self improvement for her and she is hoping to encourage people to embark upon a spiritual journey at this age.)

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is a single desi who writes about the experience in her blog posts. You can connect on Twitter at lollipop77 or on LinkedIn and Facebook with Monica Marwah.

1 Comment

  1. I think a lot of people will want to be married after reading this post!
    I love it – it made a lot of sense although the single life is not always such fun – specially in India. But sometimes it is :)