Single Desis – Can Marriage Wait?
Marriage…till death do us part? Really? Hmm…in a new study, a high number of 20 something’s are tying the knot with the wrong man. Mistake? Illusion? Why are so many young women between the ages of 20 and 25 headed for unhappily wedded bliss? 40 percent of young brides between the ages of 20 to 25, as opposed to 27 percent of older brides.
It seems as if more and more of smart, beautiful and talented women seem to be driven to find a man and marry him. Mainly because they just want to have it all. Unfortunately, their desire to have it all backfires.
Desi Women – Wanting it All
Smart women are competitive, they want it all and they need it all. The subtle, underlying force in marrying young is entertainment media. As they watch TV or read celebrity gossip, they see twenty something females announce their engagement (Katy Perry, Kloe Kardashian, Beyonce, etc…). Women then believe that if they are not married by 30, they are somehow not meeting the trend of the society. Women rush into marriage and then before they realize what they got into, they separate.
The fear of falling behind on some marriage schedule is the top reason why so many young couples separate. Intimacy issues, financial issues, not reaching one’s career goal and wanting to do more for oneself are other reasons why so many young couples part ways.
Wow, times have changed since we were in high school and college. A decade ago, we would have never dreamed that our lives would mirror celebrity lives. That all has changed with the advancement of the internet. We are now living in a time where we are more competitive, more driven. Due to social media, blogs, websites, tweets directly from the celebrity, and other informative tools, we now have access to other people’s lives, where they shop, where they party, where the paparazzi can find them, etc… Now the lines between Hollywood and the real world have become blurred. We no longer see their lives as completely different and separate from our own.
Singles Craving the Celebrity Lifestyle?
Women’s biological and hormonal drives kick in and go to overtime and they start to crave the celebrity lifestyle. Especially if they have a great job and they can afford expensive cover charges, dinner at top restaurants and Roberto Cavalli sunglasses.
Whether you are famous or not, trying to build a real connection before the age of 30 leaves little time to really bond with a guy that you want to bond with. If you view your husband as an achievement, you really don’t know what you are getting yourself into once you marry.
In order to test yourself and determine if this love is for real, imagine being with your boyfriend forever without exchanging I do’s as opposed to marrying someone else after a few years of dating. If the latter sounds more appealing, then hold off on your plans for matrimonial bliss. It isn’t your man you are in love with; it is the prospect of marriage that really entices you.
xoxo
Monica
What do you all think? Please share your thoughts!
(Monica Marwah is a 30 something single school psychologist who enjoys living life to the fullest. She is taking her experience and showing others how to believe in themselves and love themselves completely. After years of dating and meeting people, she has come into her own. Spirituality has been a foundation for self improvement for her and she is hoping to encourage people to embark upon a spiritual journey at this age.)
