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“Anyone that knows the desi culture knows that it is primarily male dominated…men control the household, make the decisions, and decide on the direction of the family. Does that formula still apply to a woman in her mid-thirties, who has exited her past and created a whole new personality to gel with her environment?

A woman who has lived independently for a few decades and experienced life in the way she sees fit. She has gone to the bars and clubs, enjoyed the music, watched the latest movies, experienced different fashion statements, and met a variety of people. All in all, she has self healed her wounds, picked herself up and moved on repeatedly.”
Guest Blog – The Single Desi (Photo: alvarotapia hidalgo)

The Single Desi on the hot new TV shows including ‘The Mindy Project’ starring Mindy Kaling:

“Although she accomplished her career goals (she is a physician on the show), her romantic goals were way off the traditional time line. She struggled with issues that all smart, goal-oriented desis struggle with.
The one thing I love about Kaling is that she is not afraid to be herself. She is not residing in America and mentally living in India and trying to be traditional in a nontraditional world.”
Guest Blog: The Single Desi

“Judgey Indians and judgey people make my blood boil. And judgey people are everywhere. But I find comfort in the fact that I live in a city where anything goes. Black. White. Purple. (And I’m just talking about hair color.) All ethnicities. All types.

If you want to get married 8 times or 2 times, you can. If you are 60 and want to date someone who is 20, you can. I love that I can have a conversation with someone about the merits of drinking a 2007 cabernet sauvignon or something banal such as the overload of traffic once the stadium goes up in Brooklyn.”
Joya Dass talks to Monica Marwah on ‘The Single Desi’ – Guest Blog

“With the impending divorce of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, I began to think a lot about Scientology. Sources say that Scientology has played a part in their unhappily ever after.

It is reported that Katie wants primary residential custody and primary legal custody of Suri (the couple’s six year old daughter) due to differing parenting styles. Katie is a Catholic girl and would like Suri to be raised Catholic; and Tom is a devout Scientologist and wants Suri to become a Scientologist like his other two children.

I have studied Hinduism, Sikhism, Christianity, Kabbalah and Scientology. I think religion and culture gives us something to depend on and think about. It gives us our belief system and lets us believe that we operate as part of a system.” Guest Blog – The Single Desi. Photo – Harpreet Thinking

Marriage…till death do us part? Really? Hmm…in a new study, a high number of 20 something’s are tying the knot with the wrong man. Mistake? Illusion? Why are so many young women between the ages of 20 and 25 headed for unhappily wedded bliss? 40 percent of young brides between the ages of 20 to 25, as opposed to 27 percent of older brides.

It seems as if more and more of smart, beautiful and talented women seem to be driven to find a man and marry him. Mainly because they just want to have it all. Unfortunately, their desire to have it all backfires. Guest Blog: The Single Desi. (Photo: NYHenna)

“How many of us like to go to social events? Let’s be honest. A bunch of strangers standing around, some have their friends, some don’t; some are nice; some are not. Finding your place at a bunch of single networking events can be daunting, especially if you are on the introverted side.”
Guest Blog – Single Desi

“Do you take responsibility for the emotional pain that others have inflicted on you? Do you feel excessively bad? Do you blame yourself for not being good enough to please this person? Do you walk away? Do you not care?

Some of us take life very seriously; some of us don’t take life seriously enough. Some of us are in between. No matter what category you fall into, you can be damaged by other people’s emotional outbursts or nasty actions. As a psychologist, I cannot stress enough the importance of moving on and letting go.”
Guest Blog: The Single Desi. Photo: Harpreet Thinking

“This next blog is dedicated to all you single 20-something’s, who aren’t sure about where life is headed and turning 30 seems to be a scary prospect. Sit back, relax and enjoy yourself, because I am about to share with you some thirty-something secrets that will surely give you plenty to look forward to: yy thirty you should own your own furniture, your own style sense, your own sense of taste – and one great romantic memory.” Guest Blog – The Single Desi

Being single has its benefits. You are free; you are open to new experiences. You go wherever the world takes you and you have all that money and time to yourself.
However there is some negativity attached to being single. For example, there is no socialization security. You limit yourself to whoever is open to you. You go out, put on a nice dress and attract whatever the universe sends in your direction.

More and more of us are searching for opportunities to help improve our daily lives. We want to find the best out there and we strive to achieve it. Unfortunately, we don’t always work with a clear mind. There is so much distraction in our environment and in our own heads.

Some of us have constant chatter and noise inside our own minds. We often try to dispel myths that we grew up with and hope that we can outgrow upsetting experiences that have brought us down in the past. GUEST BLOG

“When I was growing up, there was no Internet. We didn’t have access to people’s personal lives the way we do now. Things were happening back then but no one except immediate family and friends knew about it until some reporter got wind of it.

Now there are countless blogs, online magazines, social media, socialites and reality stars floating around. News flies around the world with the click of a button within two seconds. It is in your face and you can’t just ignore it.

However, I feel that there is a reason everyone is obsessed with celebrity culture and personal lives of celebrities: we are trying to find someone to relate to. Someone to look up to; Someone who is having experiences that parallel our experiences; Someone who can let us know that there is nothing wrong with us when bad things happen to us.” Guest Blog – Sex & the Single Desi
Photo: Christina Aguilera by Balt-art.

Being single, sexy and fabulous is a choice that only the strongest and most confident desi women make. Amin Dhillon, Miss India Canada, was named amongst the Top 10 Indian Models along with Padma Lakshmi and Deepika Padukone. Here she talks about dating, romance and being single on Sex and the Single Desi blog.

“An important asset to have in any relationship, whether it is with your friend, boyfriend, lover, marriage partner, parents or siblings, is effective communication skills. I really feel that as a generation we lack respect for each other. I am not sure how you feel about this but it seems that when the tough get going, the going gets rough.

More and more people are checking out of their relationships because they aren’t able to communicate what they want or how they are feeling. They aren’t feeling as if the other person is listening to them and hearing what they have to say.”

“A sexy desi women knows her mind, says what she feels and is not afraid to stand up for what she believes in. Being single and fabulous can be exciting and enjoyable as long as you make the best of every moment given to you. No apologies; no regrets…just you, facing off against the world.

Sure, life doesn’t go as planned, but at least you tried and you did what you wanted to do. We have no control over who we meet or who drags us to a dark place but we will always survive because we are survivors. We are our biggest supporters and our worst enemies tied up in one pretty package.”

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In a society where social networking is as easy as a click of a button, we all want to move ourselves to a better version of ourselves. We are living in a time where everyone has something to say and teach us. With tools such as Twitter and Facebook, we often compare ourselves to others and wonder if we are enough. (Guest BLog)