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    Social Media – A Love-Hate Relationship

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    By Monica Marwah on March 9, 2012 The Buzz
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    In her blog Sex and the Single desi, Monica Marwah talks about the love hate relationship with social media
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    Social Media – The Good and the Bad

    I think Facebook is good because it gives you a general trend of who lives in this world and how people are spending their lives.  It also shows you where you stand in comparison to someone else.  Are you more cultural, less cultural, the same…I have found out when people have gotten engaged, married, or divorced through Facebook.

    I have found out about pregnancies and childbirth through Facebook.  I have found out what sorts of things are important to people and how they spend their lives.  I have also found out where life has taken the people I use to know.  It was great to be privy to that kind of information, as before the Facebook days more people were discreet and had difficulty relating to people they didn’t want to be friends with.

    Through social utilities such as Twitter and Facebook, I have learned tremendously from all the information that people are sharing, which I couldn’t do otherwise.    I am thankful for having opportunities to connect with some of my favorite people and learn who their favorite designers are or what they do to stay healthy on a daily basis.

    I also think there are plenty of disadvantages involving Facebook and other social networking utilities. For example, people are mistaking it for real life. People are spending hours upon hours checking it to compensate for their loneliness or to see what people are doing. Real connection and real emotions are becoming obsolete.  People feel more comfortable typing in front of computer, and giving thumbs up than hanging out at dinner.

    What do you think?  Are online utilities killing social skills?

    As for me, I am glad to have experienced the online world.  Afterall, the current trend is to update everyone through the computer.  However, I feel more comfortable in my own skin now and I don’t feel as if I have anything to prove.

    When Facebook first came on the scene, people were insecure about building their lists and adding people that they have just met for two seconds.  Then people realized it was a waste of time and they didn’t care about a lot of people and started defriending people to clean up their lists.

    I,  for one, use social media for my needs and my needs alone.  I don’t care what people think nor do I compete with the people who have 600 to 700 people on their list.  I am thankful that I keep what is helpful to my life on my list and discard the rest.

    xoxo

    Monica Marwah

    Monica Marwah writes about single desi relationships in 'Sex and the Single Desi' on Lassi with Lavina
    Monica Marwah

    (Monica Marwah is a 30 something single school psychologist who enjoys living life to the fullest.  She is taking her experience and showing others how to believe in themselves and love themselves completely.  After years of dating and meeting people, she has come into her own.  Spirituality has been a foundation for self improvement for her and she is hoping to encourage people to embark upon a spiritual journey at this age.)

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    is a school psychologist who works in the Philadelphia area. For fun she enjoys dancing, Pilates, yoga, reading and traveling.

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    1 Comment

    1. Leena on March 10, 2012 10:43 pm

      Great article Monica and glad that social media has been great for you and many others. I think when used with discretion and wisdom, FB and twitter can be a great thing. But it CANNOT replace true human connections and community which occur face to face (and which for most of us is limited to just close family and friends). As for me, I value my privacy and have no interest in other people’s private life. I pulled the plug on Facebook last July after having an account for over 3 years.
      Best decision I ever made for myself and will never go back. But to each their own.

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