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    A Single Desi’s Search for Self

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    By Monica Marwah on August 14, 2011 The Buzz
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    In 'Sex and the Single Desi' , a blog on Lassi with Lavina , Monica Marwah talks about the power of affirmations and loving one's self.
    A Single's search for Self. Photo: Denise Carbonell

    A Self-Made Woman

    These days, more and more woman are spending more time bonding with themselves than with  anyone else.  Everyone is moving at a fast pace and no one knows where they are going or how they will end up.  Life is journey with good parts and bad parts and getting through everything is part of God’s plan.

    When I was 27, a lot of changes were taking place in my life, (at this point and time I realize that everything that was happening then was good-of course I am on the other side to see how everything turned out), however I wasn’t sure what was happening or how things were going to turn out.  I was scared and I didn’t know what to expect from life.

    I was making the transition from 20 something to 30 something and I never pictured myself in my 30’s, what was waiting for me ahead? Will I really be a full fledged adult?  I was in the process of going to school and changing my career; leaving old beliefs and mindsets behind and embracing the new journey I was about to embark on.  Was I ready?  Am I really at a point where I am completely independently and fully shaped? New things were waiting; I just had to get there.

    A friend of mine suggested I read a book called You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay.  Of course I jumped on it since I love psychology books and I loved my friend dearly.

    You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
    You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

    A Single’s Journey, Affirmations along the way

    I believe that as a woman, married or single, you have to believe in yourself.  You have to stroke your own ego and you have to take care of yourself.  No one is going to work hard for you, no one is going to pay your bills and no one can completely love you the way you love yourself.  Trust me on that one.

    You Can Heal Your Life is a book about affirmations and letting go of the past.  In the book, it has a list of all the ailments, the probable causes because of how you are thinking and a new thought pattern that can lead you away from that particular ailment.  To this day, I haven’t forgotten that book.

    Entering into your 30’s is an important time in your life.   This is when I started to ask spiritual questions.  You should start focusing on your health, and if you lost your way because of all the hard work you did in your 20’s   (by building a career and shaping a resume) you should start refocusing and eating healthy again.  Nothing says I love you like a nurturing diet and a good workout.  Love is a miracle cure.  Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.  Love is having a great respect for yourself and a gratitude for the miracles of your body and mind.
    I know that this is easier said than done.  EVERYONE has issues from childhood that plague our everyday thoughts and minds.  We don’t know how to get past it, so we keep going.  Suddenly it catches up to us when we attract the wrong partner or we date the same man over and over again at different stages of our lives.

    In 'Sex and the Single Desi' , a blog on Lassi with Lavina , Monica Marwah talks about the power of affirmations and loving one's self.
    Single and on a journey of self-discovery. Art - Kathy Crabbe

    The only thing we can do is cleanse ourselves spiritually and wholly.  In this life, we can only save ourselves from ourselves.  No one else will do it.  Trust me.  Consistent patterns are within us.  Our family is who we are.  They taught us what we know.  They raised us, according to what they knew at the time.  However, you are an adult and you need to take responsibility and do some mental housecleaning.

    Suppose you were told over and over again that you weren’t good because you didn’t earn an “A.”  You need to talk to yourself and say that isn’t true, even if I fail; I am no less than anyone else.  You don’t have to be the best, you don’t have to have it all, and you just have to be you.  Forgive the past, embrace your mind and live emotionally free of any negative beliefs about yourself.  Affirmations are key.


    Some daily affirmations to be repeated:

    1. I love and accept myself where I am right now.  I am wonderful.
    2. All of life is change.  My growth patterns are ever new.
    3. I am free.  I look ahead freely because life is eternal and filled with joy.  I see with loving eyes.  No one can ever hurt me—-this one is especially important to me.
    4. I let go of everything that I no longer need.  My consciousness is now cleansed and my concepts are fresh, new and vital.
    5. Forgiveness, tolerance, compassion.  I move forward without hesitation.
    6. I listen to God.  I hear the joys of life.  I am part of life.  I listen with love.

    –

    xoxo

    Monica Marwah

    Monica Marwah writes about single desi relationships in 'Sex and the Single Desi' on Lassi with Lavina
    Monica Marwah

    Monica Marwah is a 30 something single school psychologist who enjoys living life to the fullest.  She is taking her experience and showing others how to believe in themselves and love themselves completely.  After years of dating and meeting people, she has come into her own.  Spirituality has been a foundation for self improvement for her and she is hoping to encourage people to embark upon a spiritual journey at this age.

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    Monica Marwah

    is a school psychologist who works in the Philadelphia area. For fun she enjoys dancing, Pilates, yoga, reading and traveling.

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    2 Comments

    1. Kriti on August 23, 2011 4:15 am

      Wow Monica you really did give the 30s a lot of thought as did many of my other girlfriends… Me, I just walked over without much thought. I, however, do remember feeling a kind of awe when I turned 16. The later transitions didn’t really give me much time to reflect : ). The affirmations though could never really go wrong. Those are great!

    2. Savira on August 21, 2011 11:41 am

      There is truth to what you say … but I also feel that one should be honest with oneself… It is the key in growing or maturing in one’s journey.
      Seeking within and accepting what is … is something most beings have a hard time doing.. We like to sugarcoat it…
      Interesting subject.. and would love to read what others have to say…

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